‘She’s White. Is That Okay?’ Without Hesitating, My Husband Said, ‘She Needs A Home. Her Race Isn’t Relevant.’: Foster Parents Adopt 3 Children In 7 Months, ‘Families Don’t Have To Match’

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Tierra Hamm has always been wanted to become a mom since she is a little girl. He mother L-eave this world when she was five years old and has only a few memories of her, which helped her to shape, as she is today. She met her husband, Patrick Hamm when she was 18 and soon they got married.

Since then she knew that she wanted to start a big family, but she kept seeing negative pregnancy tests until she thought that being a mom is not in her cards. They even did three rounds of IUI, but failed.

Tierra Hamm’s friend who is a foster mom, reached out to her a couple of times because she wanted her to talk about fostering, but the couple was not ready to adopt any kid. After 6 months, she reached out to them again. She said, “Our state needs more good foster homes.

Children are sleeping in hotel rooms right now.” At the end of the conversation, Tierra was 100% sure to pursue foster care and convinced her as well. In 2017, the couple started training and got a license for fostering.

On July 12, the couple received a call from the placement desk and said, “There was a sweet little 15-month old who needed relocation. Her current foster mom was going back to school and she only took short term emergency placements. The kid is very shy and she has attachment issues.” She paused for a second and then said, “She’s white. Is that okay?” Without hesitating, Patrick said, “She needs a home, right? Her race is not relevant.”

Within an hour, the couple received the number of the previous foster mother of the child and they made their arrangements to welcome her. The next day, a little sc-ared girl came to their home, unknowing of her surroundings, she started crying and continued for 24 hours. Tierra was emotionally drained and almost thought that she made a mistake by taking her in. She said, “I thought to myself, “What the heck did we just do?” It was a scary time for the couple, but one day, the little girl Felicity started calling them “Mommy” and “Daddy” on her own. Tierra said, “At that moment, I knew we made the right decision. From the beginning, we knew reunification was always the plan.”

Her birth mother started visiting the couple and would ride the bus to each visit. She started toting a crockpot so that her kids could have a home-cooked meal with her.

Until the day, when it all stopped. She stopped showing up and understood that her kid is attached and has bonded with the family she was living with. She said, “Felicity’s mom really started working her case and fo-ught a good fi-ght. She finally signed away her rights three days before her case was supposed to go to trial. That was the most bittersweet feeling, to know a mother loved her kids so much, she was willing to sign that part of her life away. I am forever grateful for her and her sacrifice.”

9 months later, the couple expanded their license and welcome another kid into their home. Tierra got a call from the placement help desk. He said, “So, you and Patrick are open to taking infants, right?” Tierra said, “Absolutely!” The help desk responded, “How would you like to take in a 5-day-old? He is in the hospital right now because he is premature but he will be ready to go home in a couple of days.” Tierra said, “Oh my gosh, yes!”

After an hour, they again got the call from the help desk, he said, “Hey, I just wanted to give you a little update. The baby was born severely dr-ug-exposed. He is on a feeding tube and may need oxygen. He will need to stay in the hospital for about a week. Do you guys still want to take care of him?” Tierra said, “Of course we did!” The couple visited the kid in NICU, one by one. When Patrick visited the baby, the baby stopped breathing, but Patrick was a champion, he gave CPR to the kid and he started breathing again. Tierra said, “We almost lost him”. The kid, Samuel was in NICU for 32 days and came home completely off of oxygen and the feeding tube.

In the beginning, they faced a lot of problems and Samuel even gained weight, but now he is a very active two-year-old kid. After seven weeks, when Samuel came, On February 9th Tierra got a call from Samuel’s birth mother, who was seven weeks pregnant. So, the couple know that another baby would be coming to keep his brother company and now 9 months to prepare for the new baby. On 19th December, Judah was born but was initially placed with another family. The couple fo-ught hard and bring him home after 7 days.

Tierra said, “Within a year and a half, I became a mom to three kids, all under 2 years old. The boys are 10 months and 15 days apart. I wouldn’t have changed it for anything.” Tierra said that she is blessed to have such a wonderful and open relationship with the birth mothers. On January 31, 2020, the couple adopted Felicity and Samuel and on July 2, 2020, Judah was adopted as well. Tierra said, “As someone who is infertile, I never thought I would ever be a mother and I never thought I could love as hard as I do now. We don’t know what foster care looks like for us in the future. Right now, we are just going with the flow as a family.”