Pamela Chandler got seriously fed up with all the posts in her social media feeds arguing that ‘ra-cism isn’t a thing’. People in her online social circles were saying they are tired of the protests and didn’t understand Black Lives Matter. So, to give everyone a chance to broaden their worldview, Pamela — a white woman who is married to a black man — shared an open letter on social media about how ra-cism has shaped her family’s everyday life.
And it really resonated with people. Pamela’s post has received over 124,000 reactions and 127,00 shares, and the numbers just keep getting bigger.
“Me and Walter met seven years ago on Twitter,” Pamela told Bored Panda. “He retweeted something I wrote, we started talking and never stopped.” Fast forward a year after the two of them started chatting online, and Walter moved from the Bronx in New York City to Ohio to marry Pamela.
The similarities in their sense of humor and core values, like faith, love, and family, were just too strong.
The woman has received so much positive feedback over her post that she even created a family blog, called The Chandler Crew to connect with like-minded people all over the globe. But as much as Pamela is happy that she got people to talk about such a difficult subject, she is still bothered it was her, a white woman, whose perspective has been going viral when “plenty of people of color have spoken to these issues many times.”
“I’ve always known that we [as a society] needed to work for more rac-ial unity but I got an inside and unique perspective of what it’s like to live as a different race by being married to a black man,” Pamela explained. However, the woman doesn’t think that our rac-ial problems are too big for us; Pamela still believes we can untangle them. “I see society improving. People are willing to talk about it, engage, learn, and try to be better humans. I think we are all trending upwards as a society, and I think that’s great.”
But still, it bothers her that it’s her perspective — that of a white woman — that’s going viral when “plenty of people of color have spoken to these issues many times.”
This is how people reacted to this post:
Tuesday Frangipani Udell – My husband never comes with me to open inspections after we were told once that the landlord didn’t like his type. We’ve lived in 3 houses that he had only seen online. We were walking on the beach one day when an old man whispered to him to “stay away from the white women”.
Amber Langston – My best friend is African American and it drives me INSANE when we’re out in public and I see people treat her differently than me. The worst is when people ignore her and only talk to me when she is by far the nicer of the two of us.
Evelyn Abraham – Being from a bir-acial family this is what I know and believe……there is rac-ists of all nationalities, we just focus on the good and not bad. I’m a big believer when we focus on what’s good instead of what’s bad, our outlook changes. Have a blessed day.rac-ial family this is what I know and believe……there is rac-ists of all nationalities, we just focus on the good and not bad.
I’m a big believer when we focus on what’s good instead of what’s bad, our outlook changes. Have a blessed
Zarah May – I grew up in mixed communities and as i got older I saw little things like this. It’s upsetting that people get treated like that, and I hate that so many people ignore it.
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