Mother Determined To Declare Her Son Non-Binary After School Told Her To Cut His Long Hair – Video


An 8-year-old has been denied admittance by several schools because of his hair — and now his mother is for a policy change. Bonnie Miller of the U.K. has been on the lookout for schools her son Farouk James could attend in the future, and two won’t allow him in because of his long, natural hair.

One of those schools was The London Oratory School — the same school her older son, who is now 23, attended. “I knew about their bad hair policies,” Miller told CBS News. The mother said she went through a similar situation with her older son 10 years ago — except that time, her son’s hair was too short for the school.

“His hair was cut too short and he got in trouble three times and nearly excluded from school for having it too short, to the point where I actually went to the shoe shop and bought some boot polish,” she told CBS News.

She thought after years passed, their strict policies might have changed — but she found out they didn’t. Farouk’s long hair breach the school’s policy, too.

Miller said both of her sons are mixed race. James’ father is from Ghana and for cultural reasons, the parents didn’t cut his hair until he was 3 years old. “At that point he was attached — and so was I, to be honest — with his beautiful hair,” Miller said. “We just kept the hair.” She allowed her son to continue to grow his hair, not thinking much about it — until it came to applying for secondary schools.

Miller recalled another situation about a boy who had dreadlocks and was banned from a different private school, Fulham Boys School. However, that boy’s mother took the school to court over the hair rule, and they reached an agreement. “They settled out of court,” Miller said. “They said in light of what’s happened, they’re now going to change their policies.” That was a good sign for Miller, who thought Fulham Boys School would certainly accept her son now, if no other schools would.

After reviewing the school’s uniform policies, Miller soon realized her son’s long hair was still against the dress code. “It had been changed, but what they’ve done is added two rac-ist policies: one, no dreadlocks and two, no braids,” Miller said. According to the Fulham Boys School uniform and appearance policy, “the maximum hair length is above the collar and the minimum hair length is a number 2 cut.”

Now, both of Miller’s school choices for her son seemed out of the question because of his hair. “Most of the schools that have these hair policies are Christian schools — which is ironic because Jesus had long hair,” she said. “So that means Jesus wouldn’t get into those schools if he were around today.” Miller said she thought about sending Farouk to coed schools, but realized they have strict hair policies as well.

It made Miller wonder about greater issues, she said. “I was thinking about children that are non-gender and gender neutral and trans and thinking, ‘How will they fit into this?'” she said. She wondered if they would also be forced to cut their hair a certain way, based on the school’s policies for s-x they were assigned at birth.”Who decides what’s feminine and what’s masculine? I’ll register him as nonbinary, and see what the school has to say then,” she said.

Miller has yet to find a private school that will definitely accept her son with his long natural hair, but they have two years until he enters secondary school. This situation has prompted her to try and help others; she even started a petition to ban hair discrimination in the U.K.

She said she’s also lobbying houses of parliament and trying to get the educational secretary to write to schools on her behalf. “We’re getting a real team together and calling it the Mane Generation,” Miller said. “We’re going to brawl this until these rules get changed. And it’s globally, not just domestically in the U.K.” “I saw a boy in America with dreadlocks who is not allowed to graduate,” Miller said, referring to Texas high school student Deandre Arnold. “There’s just so many kids [in America] coming forward and sharing their experiences.”

In 2019, California became the first state to ban discrimination against natural hair with the passage of the CROWN act. “It’s against human rights to ask someone to take part of their natural body away to appease society’s expectations of what you should be,” Miller said. She added that her son has been made fun of for his hair, but he is adamant about not cutting it and described him as a strong, confident kid. He also has a large following on Instagram, which she hopes to use as a platform for this cause.

This is how people reacted to this post:

terribush992Its yours and you have every right. when the schoo made my son cut his, he lost his strength.

saqqanajehThe school is absolutely right you should cut his hair short as other kids

peggyspoonerIt’s hair ! Albeit Great hair !! If I was your mum I’d stand my ground too , if you were a girl nothing would be said and whilst I’m not usually one to stand on my soapbox , your hairstyle should be up to you ! I’m sure a compromise could be made without cutting it, braids for school maybe ? If you were a Sikh you would be allowed a turban to cover your hair , in today’s world of acceptance of individuality, your hair should not restrict your education .. Be you

rosemm69Schools are taking things way too far. Those of you saying they should cut his hair, especially those being rude about it really need to get a life! Schools shouldn’t have the say over how a child has their hair. They tried making a Native American boy cut his hair once although it was the way of his heritage and I simply see no difference in that and this situation. The saddest part is that people that are supposed to be grown adults and should have better sense are leaving such rude comments on this post.

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